New Year's epiphany

Well, this marks the first of my "blogging" adventures... I saw a friend had this on her facebook (Thanks Sara!) and was inspired.

I've always been more at ease writing my thoughts than speaking them...which many of my past relationships could attest too... "You're SO QUIET!!" They'd always tell me...and me, feeling like there was something wrong with me...

So, epiphany #1...I'm perhaps a natural writer... Go figure... It only took me 33 years to figure that out! Wow, watch out... Haha!

Epiphany #2...God is no dummy... Well, I guess it's not so much an epiphany, as it is a reminder that I'm very small and humble...and need to just be quiet and PAY ATTENTION!!! There's a story of a broken heart behind this epiphany....but perhaps I'll delve into THAT story later....

Epiphany #3...When you hear that saying "Smile, cuz you never know who's falling in love with your smile"...FOLLOW IT! IT'S TRUE!!!! :)

Epiphany #4...Did I already say God is no dummy? Hmmm, well, I just can't reiterate that one enough!!

Epiphany #5...We are what we surround ourselves with. So, be careful who you choose as your friends....and more so who your children choose to surround themselves with!

Epiphany #6...It only takes a few minutes with a really great person to change your life... Thank you Brian... My son and I cannot thank you enough.

Epiphany #7...If everyone were trained in at least a little bit of medical/health care (ie., MD, Nursing, Chiropractor, Eastern Medicine, psychiatry...or something else), our global health status would be VERY different. Imagine if we all took control over our health like we take control of our careers because of the simple act of educating ourselves... We'd be healthier, wiser, more conscientious and WAY more proactive... Not too mention, we'd have all that extra money to pay our teachers what they SHOULD be paid and refocus attention on EDUCATION....See? round and round we go.... Hmmm, can anyone say "PSYCH NURSE FOR PRESIDENT"?? Hahaha..... Dear God, I pray for strength and humility...

Epiphany #8...If us mothers stopped complaining about the lack of good men and good fathers and started nurturing EVERY man and boy we see to become good men, we'd be helping our daughters and granddaughters. It's not a bad father's fault he's a "bad dad"...He was taught that way, or at least, he was neglected, and this is the result. I think a huge reason behind the decline in the family structure and the lack of integrity in our youth is that men are not being valued the way they need to be.

Epiphany #9...(This ties into #8) Men are WAY more insecure than even women are!!! Ladies out there, Can you believe it?? It's true!! Why are they insecure? After all, the world is theirs right? Well, yea, but what kind of world are we expecting them to run? AND, what kind of tools have we given them to run it?? Crappy ones! That's for dang sure!! A good man once told me, "I realize that I am ultimately responsible for everything that occurs in my home...Now THAT'S scary!!" And this is a man who is strong in faith, mind, and spirit. And HE was scared! Imagine the men in the world who AREN'T strong? Those who were beaten, hurt, rejected, and left to fend for themselves, always looking for acceptance and belonging, ALONG with knowing he'd have to carry the burden of a family... Phew! I feel for you men out there. Ladies, we need to be giving them the respect and patience they need. They're pretty patient with us, I have to say. I mean, most guys now a-days know that we women have needs to be a "working woman" a "superwoman", and still want flowers to be delivered "just because". But what are we women giving back to them?? Come on ladies, if you are raising a boy on your own, you owe it to him to tell he needs to become a good man, and then show him what you expect. Don't assume he's gonna learn from school or tv or somewhere else...he won't, unless you actively set it in his path for him...

Phew...ok, so maybe all of these epiphanies weren't just from the New Year, but I figured I'd get them out there anyway.

Oprah said that because of her job, she'll "never need a shrink". Between blogging and having a career in Child Psychiatry, I have to agree...but then again, after you read my thoughts, you may have a different idea. :)

Peace friend,
Erica

Oh, and in case you're wondering why I've labeled my blog, "Thoughts from a Healer" its because according to Myer's Briggs personality typing, I'm an INFP " An Idealist: The Healer". Its a fitting title for me I think and explains my compulsion to always think about "making the world a better place" a typical attribute of Idealists...and on an interpersonal level, a healer. Go figure that I'm a psych nurse who works with kids and teens.... So there, a little background on me. Enjoy your day, and do your part to learn about your health, and to make men in society feel valuable. It'll help out everyone in the end!! Oh, and remember, God is no dummy!!!! HAVE FAITH!!!